Ask US (Week 2, May 2020)

I hope my message finds you well. My name is Leeroy and I live in Harare. I have dated a couple of ladies before and the sex was good. I have finally found the one I want to marry but last night something bad happened. My girlfriend compared me to her ex. Wehad finished the 2ndround of sex and I was ready to sleep. That’s when she said her former boyfriend used to go on for longer, and she said she was tired of our relationship. I did not know how to react, I was angry and embarrassed, I just took my clothes and went back to my place. Please help me to solvethis problem, Ireally love this lady and I don’t want her to leavemejust because of sex.Dear Leeroy From your explanation, it sounds like the problems in your relationship are not just sex related.Our first recommendation is for you to talk to your girlfriend. Tell her how she made you feel by comparing you to a former lover. Communication is vital in every relationship Leeroy, it enables both of you to express yourselves and work through your problems. Now on the issue of “rounds” and sexual cycles. There is no universally accepted number of times which you should have sex per night. Differentfactors often come to play likeexhaustion, dehydration, discomfort, and all the other consequences of successive intercourse. In light of this,it helps to stay hydrated and energised, as well as prolonging foreplay. Thiswill make it possible for you to meet the sexual needs of your relationship. Your doctor will also be able to assist in the event that you have tried all this without success. All the best Leeroy, do send us an update.