Ask Us (May week one)

Hie guys, I’m not sure if you can help. I am separated from my wife & currently seeing another lady. The problem is that whenever I am with this other lady, I can’t seem to get an erection. Strangely, every time that I have tried to mend things with my wife, my erection has been very hard! What must I do? Should I go back to my wife to make this problem go away. I still care for her as the mother of my son, but I am struggling to stay in this marriage. I also think she has used juju on me & now I am scared of her. Please help, ndiri pamaone izvozvi. –Justin* in Gweru.Dear.JustinRegrettably, we cannot speculateonwhether your problem is a result of supernatural forces. However, from the information you have given us, it sounds like you are suffering from erectile dysfunction. One of the psychological causes of ED is performance anxiety. This is a reluctance to have sex which results from previous failed attempts, or feelings of guilt/resentment towards your partner. Could it be that you are guilty of your extra-marital relationship with this other lady? Or perhaps you are just scared of failing to get an erection since the first time it happened. You might find that your fears are the cause of your problem. We are unable to offer any advice on your marriage and whether you should stay with your wife or pursue your new relationship. However, it’s not a bad idea to resolve the stalemate in your love life as it is unhealthy to go back and forth between two partners.Our recommendation is that you see your doctor for help with the erectile dysfunction. All the best Justin.